When Love is in the Air–How to Respond to Office Romances
Happy Valentines Day! Workplaces are often environments of close collaboration and a blending of social and professional interactions. People working 40 plus hours a week are bound to start friendships and even romantic relationships. While such relationships can be exciting and beneficial, there is a delicate balance to maintain. If not handled properly, these situations can cross the line into harassment.
Office romances come with their own set of risks. The very same close quarters that foster attraction can also lead to misunderstandings and unwanted advances. What starts as a mutual attraction can quickly devolve into uncomfortable situations, especially if one person loses interest or if the relationship ends badly. Also, organizations need to consider third parties who might overhear or observe interactions and behavior that might be fine socially, but may not be in a professional setting.
Recognizing Harassment: It's crucial to understand when flirtation becomes harassment. Persistent unwelcome advances, inappropriate comments, or any behavior that is unwanted and creates a hostile work environment falls into this category. Power dynamics also play a significant role, particularly when one person holds a position of authority over the other. An imbalance of power can make it difficult for the subordinate to refuse advances or speak out against harassment. Comments and attention might be fine with a person, who later decides that they want it to stop. And romances can disintegrate as quickly as they begin.
Prevention and Policies: Companies should have clear policies in place regarding office relationships. Employees should be required to disclose any romantic involvement to HR to ensure that proper boundaries and protocols are observed. Investigations of any complaints should occur immediately. Annual or bi-annual training as mandated in your state is essential for compliance, but also to remind employees. And an annual distribution of the policy is important, or even right before a big convention or company social event as a further reminder of appropriate behavior.
Responding with an Investigation: The organization’s response should be swift and thorough. Consistency is key. We can help with forms and a free training on Investigations for the HR staff of our clients. Click here for more information.
Many a successful relationship can result from relationships formed at work, but they must be approached with caution. By understanding the potential pitfalls and respecting boundaries, it's possible to enjoy a positive workplace relationship without crossing into harassment territory. And the employer’s consistent response and investigation can mean all the difference. In the end, a respectful and professional approach will ensure that the workplace remains a safe and productive environment for everyone.